Suggestions for Improvement?

[momto4]

southsidemom said:

True, but as the moderator you felt the need to ban someone and others may not have. As you stated, this was as decision solely made on your part. Perhaps you should have consulted others before doing so. Now what has happened is that you banned his wife (who posted nothing and had discussion with her spouse which is normal between married couples), others may have felt that was not warranted to ban them, you reactivate it, and expect them to rejoin the discussion feeling good about the administration of this board. Just admit that you banning her was inappropriate and move on. Maybe even send her an apology. Now that would be a nice thing to do if I were the administrator.

I must have completely missed the part where it was said that anyone should feel good about the administration of this board.

Maybe the banning wasn't inappropriate and someone is being given another chance to prove themselves.

[doctorwho]

southsidemom said:

doctorwho said:

Did I miss something ? The moderators of this board DO control the flow of what they feel is correct for the entire board membership - not any one individual. If an individual wants complete freedom to say whatever they want - then they need to start their own discussion boards.

By being a member of this virtual community we cede that authority to them, if we don't like it, we leave....

True, but as the moderator you felt the need to ban someone and others may not have. As you stated, this was as decision solely made on your part. Perhaps you should have consulted others before doing so. Now what has happened is that you banned his wife (who posted nothing and had discussion with her spouse which is normal between married couples), others may have felt that was not warranted to ban them, you reactivate it, and expect them to rejoin the discussion feeling good about the administration of this board. Just admit that you banning her was inappropriate and move on. Maybe even send her an apology. Now that would be a nice thing to do if I were the administrator.

You may want to read a little more closely and actually get your facts correct. I am not, nor ever have been a moderator on this board so I could ban no one - so where do you come off with your high and mighty attitude towards me ?

I may know many of the mods on this board, but I have nothing to do with their decisions - so if anyone owes anyone an apology -- I will be expecting yours.

[southsidemom]

archwinsome said:

SSM, DrW did not ban anyone to my knowledge.

He's not even a moderator from what I can see.

Thank you for pointing that out. I meant to attach this to WVHSParents post and address DrWho's question. Man, all these names get confusing. Gotta run.

[bob]

southsidemom said:

bob said:

I am greatly offended because you again said 204 is a Naperville SD which it is not.

Mince words if we want and institute words of mass distraction. When I lived in Aurora and people said Naperville Schools, I was not insulted in any way at all. And my friends that live in Aurora are not either and still do refer to their kids going to Naperville Schools.

Now that we have cleared the air, I await more information on date/time for get together so I can voice my suggestions face to face since I do stand behind what I say/feel.

See the bolding that you used. From what I understand about the internet that sorta means demanding something.

[southsidemom]

doctorwho said:

southsidemom said:

True, but as the moderator you felt the need to ban someone and others may not have. As you stated, this was as decision solely made on your part. Perhaps you should have consulted others before doing so. Now what has happened is that you banned his wife (who posted nothing and had discussion with her spouse which is normal between married couples), others may have felt that was not warranted to ban them, you reactivate it, and expect them to rejoin the discussion feeling good about the administration of this board. Just admit that you banning her was inappropriate and move on. Maybe even send her an apology. Now that would be a nice thing to do if I were the administrator.

You may want to read a little more closely and stick to the facts. I am not, nor ever have been a moderator on this board so I could ban no one - so where do you come off coming after me ?

I may know many of the mods on this board, but I have nothing to do with their decisions - so if anyone owes anyone an apology -- I will be expecting yours.

I was just about to PM you that I am sorry to confuse the posts and how to attach my response. Sorry.

[Arch]

southsidemom said:

bob said:

1) You were demanding to meet people face to face so you can AIR your thoughts. When faced with two options you have excuses like golf.

2) ROTLMAO was intended because of the contradiction of your post. You complain about the short leash post but then tell them to lighten up.

Make excuses? Demanding to meet? Now you must be crazy if you think I would change my plans at the last minute for this. When I have a commitment, I honor it and if you can't understand that then it is your problem and not mine. How about I pose some dates (that allow me to plan my schedule)? I will get back to you.

Out the door to drop off my little one....afternoon kindergarten carpooling calls.....

You did previously mention your calendar was filling up quickly with summer approaching. So, trying to squeak this in to accommodate you is not an unreasonable thing.. in fact, I find it very 'going out of my way' to be flexible on quick notice to help accommodate this need to you keep throwing out there.

So please, do your schedule and let me know.

[doctorwho]

southsidemom said:

doctorwho said:

You may want to read a little more closely and stick to the facts. I am not, nor ever have been a moderator on this board so I could ban no one - so where do you come off coming after me ?

I may know many of the mods on this board, but I have nothing to do with their decisions - so if anyone owes anyone an apology -- I will be expecting yours.

I was just about to PM you that I am sorry to confuse the posts and how to attach my response. Sorry.

thank you

[warriorpride]

southsidemom said:

archwinsome said:

Good, 16 hours later there is now an understanding of exactly what a 'mod' is.

From mentioning about being a reader back in mid april I found that a little odd to have forgotten since their role and duties have been in a lot of other threads, even the newspaper article that was referenced in previous posts.

I don't know why you would find that odd. Thanks to the explanation that was made (which was not quite considerate) I am savvy on terms used on this site. Don't assume that users are engrossed with the "operations" of how this site works with administrative logistics. If a person does not know or forgets, then they simply don't know. Not a crime or should be questioned. Again, why must comments seem to be analyzed so deeply when one may challenge another persons statements. No response necessary because we are going on to new things.....atleast I thought so.

Face to face is a good idea because hiding behind screen names and postings prohibits us from truly knowing what a person is truly about. I bet that when we all meet, some will be surprised to learn who others are and say, "Hmmmm, I know her from ____ and he/she is actuallu a nice gal/guy." It is possible....

Funny - I felt that my post has been "analyzed so deeply", but I'm OK with it. I explained & if anyone doesnt like it, fine.

Another funny thing - I'm not sure that there are many suggestions for improvement in the 8 pages of posts on this topic - it's kinds of degraded - maybe I should create a new thread to start fresh?

[Arch]

I wish SST would come back and join in because I actually wanted to respond to his response to me.. but if he's not coming back then it almost doesn't seem fair to respond to it because it would just be a one sided discussion....

[justvote]

doctorwho said:

I too live in Naperville (for 20 years) but have always called the district Indian Prairie -- or just 204 when people ask me where my kids go to school. I remember back 10+ years ago when there was a faction who wanted to call Neuqua - Naperville South. I didn't understand it then, but maybe all these people you mention who call 204 a Naperville school district could explain it ?

Although that does seem absurb now, the mindset was different ten years ago. District 203 calls their high schools "Central" and "North", although they have students from both Lisle & Bolingbrook (& Warrenville possibly?), so that naming convention probably didn't seem so "ridiculuos" back then. I'm very glad they decided not to go in that direction as the divisiveness would be even worse today.

[momto4]

justvote said:

doctorwho said:

I too live in Naperville (for 20 years) but have always called the district Indian Prairie -- or just 204 when people ask me where my kids go to school. I remember back 10+ years ago when there was a faction who wanted to call Neuqua - Naperville South. I didn't understand it then, but maybe all these people you mention who call 204 a Naperville school district could explain it ?

Although that does seem absurb now, the mindset was different ten years ago. District 203 calls their high schools "Central" and "North", although they have students from both Lisle & Bolingbrook (& Warrenville possibly?), so that naming convention probably didn't seem so "ridiculuos" back then. I'm very glad they decided not to go in that direction as the divisiveness would be even worse today.

Maybe. I remember the boundary committee being extremely careful not to set up boundaries that would worsen the Aurora/Naperville divide and this is why they chose to go with a north/south dividing line instead of east/west. However, now we are faced with the unexpected division in the district between north and south in addition to the Aurora/Naperville divide with Aurora WV being seen by some as the worst and Naperville NV as the best.

[justvote]

momto4 said:

justvote said:

Although that does seem absurb now, the mindset was different ten years ago. District 203 calls their high schools "Central" and "North", although they have students from both Lisle & Bolingbrook (& Warrenville possibly?), so that naming convention probably didn't seem so "ridiculuos" back then. I'm very glad they decided not to go in that direction as the divisiveness would be even worse today.

Maybe. I remember the boundary committee being extremely careful not to set up boundaries that would worsen the Aurora/Naperville divide and this is why they chose to go with a north/south dividing line instead of east/west. However, now we are faced with the unexpected division in the district between north and south in addition to the Aurora/Naperville divide with Aurora WV being seen by some as the worst and Naperville NV as the best.

Did I miss something at those boundary meetings? From what I have seen, the boundaries that were ultimately decided on will lessen the Aurora/Naperville divide (and the achievement gap) considerably. In fact, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe Matea (located in Aurora) will probably end up being the highest achieving school of the three.

[movingforward]

justvote said:

momto4 said:

Maybe. I remember the boundary committee being extremely careful not to set up boundaries that would worsen the Aurora/Naperville divide and this is why they chose to go with a north/south dividing line instead of east/west. However, now we are faced with the unexpected division in the district between north and south in addition to the Aurora/Naperville divide with Aurora WV being seen by some as the worst and Naperville NV as the best.

Did I miss something at those boundary meetings? From what I have seen, the boundaries that were ultimately decided on will lessen the Aurora/Naperville divide (and the achievement gap) considerably. In fact, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe Matea (located in Aurora) will probably end up being the highest achieving school of the three.

justvote,

I think they meant the boundary process 10 years ago when the boundaries were being decided for the New Neuqua Valley High school. I could be wrong, but that is the way I read the post.

[momto4]

movingforward said:

justvote said:

Did I miss something at those boundary meetings? From what I have seen, the boundaries that were ultimately decided on will lessen the Aurora/Naperville divide (and the achievement gap) considerably. In fact, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe Matea (located in Aurora) will probably end up being the highest achieving school of the three.

justvote,

I think they meant the boundary process 10 years ago when the boundaries were being decided for the New Neuqua Valley High school. I could be wrong, but that is the way I read the post.

Thanks, yes, I thought we were specifically discussing the naming and opening of Neuqua. This has nothing to do with last year.

[doctorwho]

movingforward said:

justvote said:

Did I miss something at those boundary meetings? From what I have seen, the boundaries that were ultimately decided on will lessen the Aurora/Naperville divide (and the achievement gap) considerably. In fact, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe Matea (located in Aurora) will probably end up being the highest achieving school of the three.

justvote,

I think they meant the boundary process 10 years ago when the boundaries were being decided for the New Neuqua Valley High school. I could be wrong, but that is the way I read the post.

you are correct, that was from the NV boundary battles, not the recent ones.